“Am I in love with her”?
Breakups are a bummer. They can really make someone question everything. Is it the right time to date? How will I know she is the right one this time? Is it just a rebound for me? Will I be able to fall in love again?
I have been there more than once. Story of my life. Now, one thing I have come to realize is that people come packaged differently. I have been able to be in love with various women… for various reasons. What made one relationship work or fail might not make the other work or fail. The dynamics of every relationship differ. And that is the reason that usually makes me dust myself up and jump right back on the dating scene.
I may have left out the mourning bit. However, if you let yourself grieve over lost love and reflect on what might have gone wrong and the part you played in it, you heal. Yes, there will be regrets here and there but eventually, they fade. You accept that it is what it is and you move on.
How to get back into love quickly following a breakup
1. Put yourself out there
The easiest way to do this is to put yourself on the market as soon as possible. How will other singles know you are available if you are not out there? Yes, it may have been a while since you asked a woman out on date. But the longer you wait, the harder it becomes.
2. Give online dating a shot
Not for you? Trust me, its the easiest way to put yourself back on the market. How about this: On a dating site you are sure other members are single and searching too. At least here you have the chance to test the waters online before you meet for an offline date. While on there, be proactive. When you come across a profile you like, send a message. And if you hit it off online, follow up quickly by asking her out on an offline date. It’s the only way you will be able to answer the question: “Am I in love with her”?
3. Go clubbing with friends
Its easy to meet someone at a club because the dancing usually makes the move a bit less awkward. When you see a girl moving gracefully on the dance floor, give her a compliment and ask her for a dance.
4. Hang out with your friends
Single or not, friends always have this other friend, colleague or acquaintance from other social circles. So whenever people are hanging out, join them. And let them know you are single again, so that they can bring their other friends along.
Hope once you meet her you will have great chemistry enough to answer the question “Am I in love with her”?